Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Jewish Members Only, Please

So, as I said, I signed back onto Jdate. It is a site I was on for about a minute when I first moved to NYC and quickly realized I wasn't meeting anyone. But with their deal of 50% off, I guess I was the sucker born that minute. I signed on today so that I could try to rewrite my profile and maybe upload a picture of my new hair. I decided I would do a quick search just to see who some of the people Jdate thought could be my matches are. I clicked the search button and started to fill out the things I was looking for....

I am a woman (check) looking for a man (check) between the ages of 30-infinity (check). Okay maybe not infinity, but someone actually told me I should look much older because at this point, beggars can't be choosers. Awesome. All right, back to the checks, within 10 miles of 100XX (check). Show members with pictures (check). Show only profiles of Jewish Members (check).

What?! Wait a minute, isn't this Jdate? A Jewish dating website? And you are asking me if I want to see profiles of non Jewish members? Color me confused. Of course I only want to look at Jewish members!!! That was the whole reason I signed back onto Jdate in the first place. When I was doing match.com all the e-mails I got were from non-Jews. So I thought that by going to a place that was supposed to be meet my needs that wouldn't be the case. Now, I have said it before, I will say it again; I know many people (dating and married) who are Jewish and non Jewish and very happy (and I won't lie, some not so happy, but that happens regardless sometimes). It is just not something for me. Being Jewish is a part of who I am and I want to share that with someone. So Jdate, if you're reading (and I might even send you a letter to this effect) please realize the reason that many of your members are there (looking for someone Jewish) and don't become match.com, but be the place where a Jewish girl can go to try to find a match to make her and her mother happy.

5 comments:

Dee Stephens said...

too funny but I know it's true. I have a friend(who is not Jewish) who is divorced and lives in Palm Springs that signed up for Jdate.
She went out with several guys. I mean what's the point??!! Love her but when she told me that I was like WTF?
That would be like a non-LDS trying the Mormon Match.com~ LOL

MCW said...

I love Jdate - I used to search it all the time for my friend D when she was a member and eail guys for her to go out with! I don't care to much about religion, but I find most Jewish guys (and girls) prefer to date other Jews.

Accomplice said...

Wait, you can join JDate if you're not a Jew? I figured there would be some sort of vetting process to make sure members were Jewish...perhaps asking where their bar/bat mitzvah took place and when the DJ played Kool and the Gang's "Celebration"? Asking if their grandma likes the color mauve? Asking trivia questions about the Chosen People??? So anyone can join JDate? How perplexing! I suppose there are some guys (or gals) out there who aren't Chosen but would really like to become Chosen Interlopers (some have accused me of such!), but it's strange that you had to choose to see only profiles of Jewish peeps. Regardless, way to go, friend. Keep it up, and perhaps this weekend, I will officially Interlope on your behalf...hand over that password, Lady!

Anonymous said...

It is rather shocking that JDate has spread its wings and acknowledges that non-Jews are on the sight. However, think of what you are always saying and we often hear, Jewish men want and are marrying their skinny little shiksas and non-Jewish men seem to be gravitating to Jewish women. Go figure, but hey, I'm sure Mr. Right is out there somewhere.

flip flops on lex said...

I think I asked a friend once (when I first moved to the city and realized Jdate existed) if you have to be Jewish to join. This is after I'd heard from many people that Jewish guys make great boyfriends/husbands. Guess this answers my question. Hope you find someone great this time around!