Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Let's Get Excited!

So after my date with "E" I clearly had to talk about it with everyone. I was talking to my sister (the one who met her husband online) and she said something that really got me thinking. We were talking about how I just wasn't feeling any type of spark and didn't see this going anywhere. She mentioned that he first time she went out with er husband she thought they would just be friends. Then the phone rang a few days later and it was him and she was really excited to talk to him and see him again!
I thought about it, maybe if/when "E" called I would be excited. Maybe, he was nervous on the date so going out again would give me a better chance to get to know him. I was willing to follow my sister's line of thinking. Then the phone rang...
And nothing, no excitement on my part, in fact I was little bored by our conversation. I didn't let on as much and the conversation ended without him asking me out again. I though that was fine, since I was not really interested anyway. But then he called again a few days later (and again, I thought 'maybe this time I'll be excited'). This time he did ask to get together again, and I am going to go, because I promised I would go out with anyone who asked at least twice. And while my accomplice says I have already made up my mind about him (which is 99.9% true) I am still hoping my sister's advice will ring true and I will look forward to seeing "E" again!

Thursday, April 23, 2009

Just Practicing

So I had a date last night with "E" from He was someone who had e-mailed me and we chatted a bit on the phone before he asked me out to dinner. I thought that was nice since most first dates people usually ask for coffee or a cocktail, dinner is more of a commitment. Anyway, I was game. He seemed like an okay guy. There was nothing too exciting about his profile, from his pictures to his statements, he just seemed like a "nice" guy.
Its funny because as I was getting ready yesterday I realized I wasn't excited. I am not saying that I was pissed off about the date (that has happened in the past) but I just didn't have any excited feeling about meeting this guy. I wasn't nervous, I was just sort of blah, which is the best way to describe it.
When I got to the restaurant "E" was waiting outside in the little drizzle that had been wafting over the city for days! We walked into the cute sushi place and sat down to order drinks and some yummy food. The conversation was fine, and while there were a few awkward silences, for the most part we got along really well. The only thing is, I was not attracted to him in any way. I am not saying he is ugly or anything like that, but he is just not attractive to me. And shouldn't I be attracted to someone I date? Call me crazy, but I don't think its such a ridiculous concept. I mean, my friends who are dating, married, engaged, whatever....they find their significant others attractive, while I might not, and that's okay. I don't need their approval on my date's attractive rating, but I do need my own, and "E" just didn't have it.
At the same time, we did get along so well, so who knows? Maybe that attraction issue can change. But I do know that's its an important part of a relationship and not one I think I should have to compromise on.
So for now I am just chalking this date into the practice pile.

Monday, April 6, 2009


Recently I was talking to my mother about "Operation 3.0" and her advice was to begin "slumming it" as I am obviously too picky. I asked if she meant that i should start going out with "Bigblackman" and the like. She said no, she would till prefer a Jew, but a slummy Jew. Okay, yes that was my mother ladies and gentlemen. I won't lie, I was laughing hysterically! If you know my mother you can understand why. Anyway, no sooner had she said that than I got an e-mail from someone on match. I knew right away that he wasn't for me, but with my mother's words ringing in my ears, I responded and we were chatting on the phone a few days later.
The phone conversation was easy, maybe because I knew he was not for me. At the same time, you never know, and I was just hoping to have a fun date out. So we made plans and he said he would call later in the week to confirm. Well, I never heard from him, so needless to say there was no date and my mom's advice did not really work out. Oh well, back to the drawing board!
In other six months on officially ends today. We heard into my six months free now. My accomplice said it would be really funny if I met someone right now and didn't get to take advantage of my great deal! I don't know about meeting someone, but a nice date out with a guy who doesn't live at home, isn't a stalker, or a swinger, or who actually calls to cancel/confirm a date would be great! Does anyone know someone.....?