So I had a date last night with "E" from match.com. He was someone who had e-mailed me and we chatted a bit on the phone before he asked me out to dinner. I thought that was nice since most first dates people usually ask for coffee or a cocktail, dinner is more of a commitment. Anyway, I was game. He seemed like an okay guy. There was nothing too exciting about his profile, from his pictures to his statements, he just seemed like a "nice" guy.
Its funny because as I was getting ready yesterday I realized I wasn't excited. I am not saying that I was pissed off about the date (that has happened in the past) but I just didn't have any excited feeling about meeting this guy. I wasn't nervous, I was just sort of blah, which is the best way to describe it.
When I got to the restaurant "E" was waiting outside in the little drizzle that had been wafting over the city for days! We walked into the cute sushi place and sat down to order drinks and some yummy food. The conversation was fine, and while there were a few awkward silences, for the most part we got along really well. The only thing is, I was not attracted to him in any way. I am not saying he is ugly or anything like that, but he is just not attractive to me. And shouldn't I be attracted to someone I date? Call me crazy, but I don't think its such a ridiculous concept. I mean, my friends who are dating, married, engaged, whatever....they find their significant others attractive, while I might not, and that's okay. I don't need their approval on my date's attractive rating, but I do need my own, and "E" just didn't have it.
At the same time, we did get along so well, so who knows? Maybe that attraction issue can change. But I do know that's its an important part of a relationship and not one I think I should have to compromise on.
So for now I am just chalking this date into the practice pile.