That was the big advice given in week #2 of Dating Boot Camp. Now, believe me, I know that heels make a woman's legs look great. Not to mention that we walk just a little bit taller in them, meaning we carry ourselves with more confidence (at least I do). But at the same time, have you ever spent a whole day in heels walking around New York City? I challenge any guy on that man panel to do that for a day...heck, even an hour and see how your feet feel. So until the day my fee don't throb and wince in pain from heels for over five hours; I will continue to wear my flats, proudly carrying my heels in a bag ready to be slipped on after I'm done walking.
The other big thing that they talked about was being a "Bond Girl" which i took to basically mean carrying yourself with confidence and an air of mystery. You should get dressed and feel good because you like what you're wearing, because you feel good and love yourself. While that is great advice, its nothing I haven't heard before. They also repeatedly mentioned how you don't have to be a size 2 or 4 to be attractive to men. Great! But while they were saying that they kept on bringing out a model who must have been less than a 2! So that made all of us average women in the audience feel awesome!
I would say that all in all, Boot Camp Week #2 didn't hold a candle to week #1! I mean without Granny it just wasn't worth it!
In other news, I have been really feeling under the weather and since I am getting on a plane this afternoon I had to cancel my date with "F" last night. He was totally understanding and we have already rescheduled. So not to worry, details will be coming!
Thursday, May 28, 2009
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Boot Camp Week #2
Oh yes, I am excited Boot Camp Week #2 is upon us and I for one can't wait! This week's topic? "The Look Men Love." I wonder what that will be about? A bunch of skinny models showing off the latest maxi dress fashions (which incidentally look like a mumu on me!). Or will it be telling us FABULOUS single ladies how the look men love is confidence and self awareness? I have a feeling it will be mostly the former with just a dash of the latter. But I would also love to be surprised and proven wrong!
In other news, "F" and I are going out again tomorrow night! Woo hoo! Yes, I am excited, and yes that is new and somewhat weird for me. Maybe that's why I haven't posted so many details about it. My accomplice said I have to stop thinking and just do. I am working on it. And I will be sure to add more information about the date this time (since sister of accomplice made it quite clear she wants the dirt!).
In other news, "F" and I are going out again tomorrow night! Woo hoo! Yes, I am excited, and yes that is new and somewhat weird for me. Maybe that's why I haven't posted so many details about it. My accomplice said I have to stop thinking and just do. I am working on it. And I will be sure to add more information about the date this time (since sister of accomplice made it quite clear she wants the dirt!).
Friday, May 22, 2009
"E" "F" "G"
Yes, there are quite a few updates!
"E" called me and I have not returned the call. I know that's awful. But I really don't feel any connection at all. I can't even remember going out with him the day after our date. I just don't see this guy being a match for me. And yes, I understand that this is probably the coward's way out, however I really don't know what to say to him. He really is a nice guy, but not for me.
"F" is a guy who I e-mailed and he actually e-mailed me back!! We exchanged numbers and were talking and texting and finally went out last night. It was such a great date! I know, shocking right? That's usually not the case with these blog posts (see above). "F" was really funny, and definitely has the same sarcasm that I do. We really just got along so well and a date that was just meeting for drinks turned into dinner and ice cream! It was just easy and comfortable, I think that's the best way to put it.
"G" is a guy who I have exchanged a few e-mails with on match. I won't lie, the e-mails felt a little like those pen pal letters you got in elementary school. They are just a little juvenile in my opinion. Whats funny is that my accomplice just didn't see that. But anyone I showed them to who is or was a teacher understood. Just thought that was a bit odd. But I gave him my number anyway and he left me a message last night while I was out with "F." So I will call him back and try to set something up.
In other updates, I got four new winks on match! Which would be so awesome, but none of the guys were Jewish, so clearly not matches. But still nice to know that people are interested. After the months of nothing, its nice to have something positive to write about. Don't worry though, I am still going to finish out my Dating Boot Camp and report on it. I mean you can't even make up some of the stuff that I saw there!!
"E" called me and I have not returned the call. I know that's awful. But I really don't feel any connection at all. I can't even remember going out with him the day after our date. I just don't see this guy being a match for me. And yes, I understand that this is probably the coward's way out, however I really don't know what to say to him. He really is a nice guy, but not for me.
"F" is a guy who I e-mailed and he actually e-mailed me back!! We exchanged numbers and were talking and texting and finally went out last night. It was such a great date! I know, shocking right? That's usually not the case with these blog posts (see above). "F" was really funny, and definitely has the same sarcasm that I do. We really just got along so well and a date that was just meeting for drinks turned into dinner and ice cream! It was just easy and comfortable, I think that's the best way to put it.
"G" is a guy who I have exchanged a few e-mails with on match. I won't lie, the e-mails felt a little like those pen pal letters you got in elementary school. They are just a little juvenile in my opinion. Whats funny is that my accomplice just didn't see that. But anyone I showed them to who is or was a teacher understood. Just thought that was a bit odd. But I gave him my number anyway and he left me a message last night while I was out with "F." So I will call him back and try to set something up.
In other updates, I got four new winks on match! Which would be so awesome, but none of the guys were Jewish, so clearly not matches. But still nice to know that people are interested. After the months of nothing, its nice to have something positive to write about. Don't worry though, I am still going to finish out my Dating Boot Camp and report on it. I mean you can't even make up some of the stuff that I saw there!!
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Dating Boot Camp (Week #1)
Yes that's right, last night Little Match Girl went to Dating Boot Camp! Don't worry I brought some friends along to make the experience a little less daunting. Because seriously? Being in a room with a bunch of other single women getting schooled in how to date can be scary!
So armed with my complimentary glass of champagne and a pen I boldly went where just about every other single woman in midtown Manhattan was going as well (clearly they needed a bigger room). The program started with our hosts making us clap about how excited we were to be there and got to listen to Beyonce wail about "Single Ladies." To be honest, I thought that was a little odd, I don't think any woman is necessarily excited to be single. We can accept it, we can be happy with our full lives, but excited? Well, I was excited for the free drinks, excited for the coupons to the store the event was held in, and excited for my free gift at the end of boot camp....excited for being single and having these people point out all the things I do wrong? Not so much.
But I was still open minded and figured that the worst that could happen is that I would get a good chuckle out of the experience with my friends. And that is pretty much what happened. I mean I listened to them tell me about the different types of "players" out there. I watched the date re-play (fascinated actually by the fact that I was totally the guy they were describing and not the girl!!). I listened (and maybe cringed a little bit) when they spoke about MANagement (get it?). I listened to the man panel give us their point of view of certain situations. But perhaps the best part were the questions and answers. While there were some good points made by the man panel, the best part came from a woman in the audience. We call her "Granny." So, "Granny" stands up in her all white outfit, she had taken of her fabulous gold jacket, and says, "I used to be called a slut, now I am called a cougar..." OMG! The room just went crazy with laughter and applause! This woman was awesome and really made the whole experience worthwhile.
In the end though, did I walk away with loads of new information ready to take on the dating scene with a vengeance? Not really. But did I have a great time? Absolutely and I can't wait for Week #2!
So armed with my complimentary glass of champagne and a pen I boldly went where just about every other single woman in midtown Manhattan was going as well (clearly they needed a bigger room). The program started with our hosts making us clap about how excited we were to be there and got to listen to Beyonce wail about "Single Ladies." To be honest, I thought that was a little odd, I don't think any woman is necessarily excited to be single. We can accept it, we can be happy with our full lives, but excited? Well, I was excited for the free drinks, excited for the coupons to the store the event was held in, and excited for my free gift at the end of boot camp....excited for being single and having these people point out all the things I do wrong? Not so much.
But I was still open minded and figured that the worst that could happen is that I would get a good chuckle out of the experience with my friends. And that is pretty much what happened. I mean I listened to them tell me about the different types of "players" out there. I watched the date re-play (fascinated actually by the fact that I was totally the guy they were describing and not the girl!!). I listened (and maybe cringed a little bit) when they spoke about MANagement (get it?). I listened to the man panel give us their point of view of certain situations. But perhaps the best part were the questions and answers. While there were some good points made by the man panel, the best part came from a woman in the audience. We call her "Granny." So, "Granny" stands up in her all white outfit, she had taken of her fabulous gold jacket, and says, "I used to be called a slut, now I am called a cougar..." OMG! The room just went crazy with laughter and applause! This woman was awesome and really made the whole experience worthwhile.
In the end though, did I walk away with loads of new information ready to take on the dating scene with a vengeance? Not really. But did I have a great time? Absolutely and I can't wait for Week #2!
Thursday, May 14, 2009
About Last Night...
I think the following story really sums up last night to a T.
I was sitting at my desk this morning trying to figure out what was wrong with my work e-mail when my co-worker walked in. She had not been in yesterday so besides her bringing my morning coffee, I was excited to see her.
"How was last night? Did you go out?" she asked.
I looked at her like she was insane, I had no idea what she was talking about! Then she laughed and looked at me saying, "That good huh?!"
Oh My G! I had totally forgotten that I had gone out with "E" last night!
So, there it is. It's clearly not necessary to put in details about the date, since as of 10 AM I couldn't even remember I had gone out on one in the first place!
I was sitting at my desk this morning trying to figure out what was wrong with my work e-mail when my co-worker walked in. She had not been in yesterday so besides her bringing my morning coffee, I was excited to see her.
"How was last night? Did you go out?" she asked.
I looked at her like she was insane, I had no idea what she was talking about! Then she laughed and looked at me saying, "That good huh?!"
Oh My G! I had totally forgotten that I had gone out with "E" last night!
So, there it is. It's clearly not necessary to put in details about the date, since as of 10 AM I couldn't even remember I had gone out on one in the first place!
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Tonight, tonight
I have my second date with "E" tonight, and I think we all know how I feel about it at this point. We have had a few phone conversations and I have usually been bored (except for one conversation when I had a little too much to drink before the conversation). Anyway, I mentioned to someone about this upcoming date and how I get the impression that "E" is really looking forward to it and might be kind of into me, which isn't too great because I am really not feeling into him at all. That's when my friend mentioned something that, while I have heard before, I do not agree with. Basically she said that my whole situation is a good thing because the person you are in a relationship with should always like you more than you like them. I think its a little ridiculous! I mean, I want to like the person I am dating, I want to feel passionate about them and I want them to feel the same about me. I realize that no relationship is always 50-50, but to remain with someone just because they like you is not a good thing either. And that I can say from experience, since I was with someone for quite sometime and the only reason I stayed was because he liked me. And I liked that feeling, but then I realized that it wasn't enough. What do you all think about this?
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