Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Limpy, Limpy, Limpy

Seriously? What is up with men and their limpy handshakes? This has happened to me more than once and I don't understand. I am not a waif (by any stretch of the imagination) and I won't break if you shake my hand. But barely grasping my fingers as if they were each the petal of a delicate flower? That is not the way it is done. I was always taught to give firm handshake, not too light (limpy) and not too rough, you don't want to hurt anyone.

Recently for work I have had to shake quite a few hands and all the men treat me the same. I get that same limpy handshake wherever I go. Why is that? Are men trying to use the handshake as a way to show their more sensitive sides? Is there a new handshake standard I didn't know about? Now, none of these men I have come into contact with are potential matches, but still, I like a man with a firm handshake. Frankly, I like when people in general give a firm handshake. It makes me feel like you are confidant in your abilities and you want other people to know it without being overly cocky (that comes with the personality sometimes).

So, what do you all think? Is a handshake important? I know its not something really related to dating, but I still had been thinking about it recently.

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

One Third into Thirty!

Yup, I have been thirty for four months and I won't lie, don't feel like I have all that much to show for it. Besides Poppy (who graduated puppy class!!) there is not too much going on right now with Little Match Girl. I am way too broke to even think about signing up for another match.com, jdate, eHarmony adventure. Maybe I'll find a fun event to go to (and by fun I mean cheap). Do any of you have some ideas of how to add some spice to this operation without breaking my already broken bank?

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Single...With Children

So first off...Happy New Year to all! Here is hoping that 2010 brings better things than 2009!

Anyway, this past week good old eHarmony had a free communication weekend and staying true to my word I took advantage of it. Although, I was unaware of the fact that during this time you still cannot see photos of the people you are matched with unless you decide to become a paying member. And I think we all know how I feel about that. Anyway, I followed all of the steps of communication with three guys. So here is the breakdown...

Guy #1: We got to open communication and I am still waiting for him to openly communicate. Clearly Dr. Warren thinks that the man should write the first e-mail since I can't write anything until he does first....Oh well, cause the free communication ends today.

Guy #2: We have each exchanged an e-mail. He seems like a nice guy and I gave him my regular e-mail address. So we will see what happens.

Guy #3: We have e-mailed a bit outside of eHarmony. From reading his profile and following the communication he seems like a nice guy. And while he was upfront that he has kids, what I was not aware of is that he has three. Not only that, but the oldest one is fifteen! I feel like I would be pretty open to dating someone with kids. I am a child of divorce myself, so I think I'm pretty sensitive to it. However, I don't think I could date someone whose children are half my age. Basically, it would mean if they were mine, I would have been fifteen when I had them. Am I wrong? Am I being too close minded on this?