Wednesday, September 23, 2009


So for those who don't know (and I know I have not updated in a while) "Operation 3.0" has officially become "Operation 3.1." Yes, that's right, I hit the big 3-0 without much fanfare, but with wonderful friends and doing something for a wonderful cause. I spent my 30th doing a thirteen mile walk to raise money for cancer research. I wanted to look back on the big day and think I had done something a little more than just going out for dinner and (lots) of drinks. So, while I will not give out my name, if you are interested in making a donation to a great cause, please go to the JimmyFundWalk page and check it out! Okay now onto the whole reason you're here...

I have been plugging away at eHarmony as you know. I get delivered my matches on an almost daily basis and look at what Dr. Warren thinks is a perfect match. Oh, you know the whole shpeel, you've the seen the nauseating commercials enough times! Anyway, I have opened communication with over twenty different men, only to either be ignored (probably not paying an arm and a leg for their service of meeting me!), closed (we have gone over this before), or the very rare answer. So now I am on the final step of communication with one guy and we'll see what happens there. I have to answer his e-mail. But at least I get to say whatever I want and not answer multiple choice questions or anything like that! So, let's call this guy "G" and see where this goes...

Also, I have had a couple of guys initiate communication with me. What I find so humorous about this is that when eHarmony lets you know that someone is interested in you they send you an e-mail. the e-mail basically starts off saying:
Congratulations!! Someone wants to start communication with you!
I don't know why I think its so funny, but I just do! Even better are that the men who do wish to communicate with me are the ones I usually close after looking at their pictures and reading their profiles. Because no, I don't want to start dating a guy who is three or four times my size (and I am no waif), and no I don't want to date the 38 year old unemployed guy. I know this makes me shallow, or maybe I just know what I want (um, attraction, nothing wrong with that!), maybe I don't want to settle. Or maybe as my sister said, I am real and I am just looking for something real too.


MCW said...

Happy Birthday! My 30th was just the girls and I loved every minute of it because I felt like I was celebrating my 20th!

SFG said...

Are you looking for something real, or are you looking for your ideal? Because I think there might be a difference - and I don't mean that you should settle, I just mean that sometimes we have to set our preconceptions aside for a minute and give someone who we might not normally consider a chance. So, yeah, things didn't work out with Mr. F, but you gave him a chance and things were good for a while! You can do it again!

Amber said...

eHarmony almost made me give up my want to be with someone.

After 30ish communications in a matter of 2-3 months I finally met someone offline. Yeah, he started stalking me and telling his family we were getting married.

The second guy I met wanted me to drive 2 1/2 hours to his house and stay there for the weekend. This was before he met me!

I have some really awesome stories about eH but I had more fun on the message boards LOL I used Match and now I have an amazing man in my life :)

Good luck!