Monday, October 12, 2009

Re-Start

So, it is clear I am hitting the "re-start" button on this whole dating thing. I am just wondering right now what that means. I am not loving the whole eHarmony thing, I don't know where they get their matching ideas from. My match.com time has expired. I have tried speed dating and singles mixers. I mean, I even went to Dating Boot Camp! Nothing has really worked for the long term ("F" was great for a time, but moving on...).
What do I do? There is a part of me that thinks I should give up the whole online thing. On the other hand, where else can I go to meet someone? Doesn't the online thing take some of the weeding out process away from me? Should I sign up for match.com again and then collect six free months? Maybe JDate (which I can't say is all that great here in NYC from what I hear)? Do I have to change the things I am looking for? Which, by the way, I don't think is too ridiculous...Male, Jewish, employed, and NOT living at home!!!
I mean, I am definitely feeling more motivated and energized for this whole thing than I have been for a while. Now I just want to know where to move forward. To be clear, I am not ready for the whole marriage and kids thing. But I would just like to have that someone special to call after a long day, to cook with, to spend time with.

3 comments:

flip flops on lex said...

Oh wow, we could be soul sisters. I feel exactly the same way but rather than feeling motivated I generally just feel beaten down when I have a bad date. It comes and goes in waves. I, too, have met guys a pleathora of different ways: match, other online attempts, speed dating, bars, shared interests, etc. and still feel like I am just super unlucky. I wish I had the answer for you. Perhaps then I'd be able to figure it out for myself as well! Hang in there!

MCW said...

I have friends who have had a ton of success on JDate. I always told them that if I was Jewish I would be on it in a second!
I go back and forth with Match...but, you never know :)

Accomplice said...

Girl, this stuff will happen when you don't expect it (trite, I know)...remember, Mr. Accomplice was a friend of a friend I met at a party...and also not someone I would have chatted up normally (A Big Gulp full of vodka during Mardi Gras will do that to a girl....). Sister of Accomplice met her man at a business networking group, and other sister of accomplice met her man as a friend of a friend at a party...So while Match, et al are a good idea, maybe that's just not how it's going to happen for you. It's going to happen when you're wearing something horrifying to run out and do an errand with no makeup on at 7am on a Saturday...