I finally got matched via the matchmaking site with someone I thought might be interesting. He was a little older than me and seemed like we had alot in common. I agreed to the match and waited for him to call. So, "D" called over the weekend and we started the usual getting to know you conversation. We talked about what we are doing (he is going back to med school after working on Wall Street for the past few years), I told him about my work for a non-profit and my longing to move on to something new. Now for those who know me, you know that I love my field and I love the work I do, but the place I am in is not a good fit and it is time to move on. I didn't get into the negative stuff with D, just explained that I was ready for a change, but loved my work. He mentioned moving into private sector work and I wondered if that was something I would be welcome in considering my specialized degree. His next words to me?
"Yeah, you're not very marketable."
What?! Woah, how do you know what my work skills are? I was totally offended, but decided to make light of it and chalk it up to just awkward phone talk. The conversation continued with D making more suggestions for my employable future and when I referenced his "marketable" comment in a joke, he didn't laugh. This was not going well. I ended the conversation when he condescendingly told me he was glad I had SOMETHING to do that night and wasn't sitting home alone (I promise, his tone was not friendly). Well, that's conversation was over and that match is now closed! Time to move on. But it did get me thinking....
Am I marketable? And I don't mean for jobs because regardless of anything else, I know I am good at what I do. I mean in this whole dating thing. Am I really letting myself be open enough to meet someone? What makes you marketable in this thing we call dating?
And I only have a few hours to find out, because tonight is Tubav (Jewish Valentine's Day) and I am heading out to a singles event with my friend E so who knows what could happen!