Seriously?! (with additions)

So, I just got two new e-mails on match today! One from someone who made his entire e-mail a run-on sentence with no regard for grammar or spelling. For an example: "u bein jus the girl i like" So needless to say I will not be writing back to him!
The other one came from a man whose match screen name was "bigblackman" with some numbers after it (must protect the innocent after all). Now, I have nothing against a big black man, Blair Underwood anyone? But it just goes back to the whole non-Jewish thing. It states clearly in my profile that that is what I am looking for! Are people not reading it? And what is making all these people who are clearly not matches for me find my profile? My accomplice said I should just think its flattering and enjoy the fact that people are interested. Believe me I do! But on the other hand, I've sent out bunches of e-mails to people and still waiting for responses. Maybe I am asking for too much? So, what do you say accomplices...what else should I be doing to really get "Operation 3.0" moving?

Oh! And its not all bad, "B" did e-mail me back (six days after my e-mail to him). I'll try to arrange a date so we can just get this e-mail game over with!!

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So, "bigblackman" e-mailed me again! This time asking me out on a date. So I did respond and said the following:
"Thanks for your interest, but I am looking for a nice Jewish boy to bring home to mom. Good Luck!"
I thought it was a nice way to respond and I don't think I'll hear from him again.
I also got a response from "B" on the same day! I am shocked, I really don't know what to do with myself, its so unlike him! Anyway, we have a date set up for next Wed at 8. The one thing he tried to do was ask me where to go, but since he is the one who wanted to make the date, I thought he should pick the place. I didn't say that though don't worry! I did say that since he is coming from class or whatever, he should pick a place and I would be happy to meet him there. I know some of you will think I am being stupid and should have just picked and whatever, but call me a bit old fashioned, I like for the man to do all of that.
Well...for the first date at least!

Nice (not Jewish) Guys

So, I have been on match.com for two months now and have sent out over twenty e-mails. I have not gotten a great return in terms of responses, but one is better than none right? Anyway, I figured if I am sending out mass e-mails, I must get some too right? I filled out my profile completely putting in the information that is important to me (ie: meeting a nice Jewish guy, right mom?) and put up some cute pictures. So, how many e-mails from nice Jewish guys have I gotten?
NONE
E-mails from nice non-Jewish guys?
THREE!!
That's right I have gotten three e-mails from non-Jewish guys saying how great, cute, funny and generally awesome I am! One of them asked if I would let the whole non-Jewish thing slide. I wrote him back and said thanks, but no thanks (oy! a Sarah Palin reference, sorry!). He then responded again and thanked me for my honesty, saying that I was so cute and seemed so nice that he was sure I would have no trouble finding my match.
The next one came from a guy who flat out said he wished he was Jewish, looked at my profile and wanted to wish me luck because he thought I was great! That's so nice!!
The last one came from someone who clearly didn't read my profile as we said we would be a great match, but still nice to know that people are looking!
I just wish it were the people I am looking at too. I won't lie, these e-mails did my ego a little boost (a much needed one I must say). It was nice to know that my profile caught people's attention and my pictures were cute. Now if only they could pass that profile along to their Jewish friends....

I hate math, but...

Apparently, I need to hone my math skills. "B" is back. Let's recap shall we?
1. I sent "B" an e-mail on match.com and two days later got a response. When he did not hear back from me immediately, he proceeded to scope me out on facebook and e-mail me there.
2. I responded to his facebook message three days later. I did apologize for time just running away from me with work events and travel foe my sister's bridal shower. I mean a girl has to have her priorities right? And while "Operation 3.0" is super important, my job and my sister are even more important. Sorry "B".
3. I did not hear back from "B" in fact one of my friends said I probably never would. And I won't lie, that was fine with me. Like I said before these games of waiting the same amount of time to write back and all that, I just don't do that.
4. "B" wrote back! FOUR days later, are we sensing a pattern. Wait one more day than the other person? He too apologized for being busy.
5. I responded right away!! Wishing him a Happy Thanksgiving since he mentioned his oh so busy schedule leading up to the holiday.
So, what do you all think? Will I hear form "B" tomorrow? In five days? Six? Or can we just say good-bye to this game playing guy and move on?

Let's talk about sex...or not

So my date with "C" is cancelled. That was fast right?! Well, I was having a nagging feeling about it for while, and then there was the so-called straw that broke the camel's back moment. Allow me to fill you in.
"C" and I were chatting via IM, just doing the general get to know you business when the issue of sex came up. Now I am not a prude (okay maybe I am a little) and I am not a wild child, but I just felt like that's a conversation you have with someone after you have at least met them. I told "C" what I thought and he was super nice about it. He told me he understood and was looking forward to meeting me.
Well, apparently the subject of sex is the only subject "C" likes to talk about, because it would come up in one way or another in every conversation! I tried to ignore it or gloss over it. I mean, there was a part of my thinking, "finally, there is a guy out there who may actually be interested in taking you out, who cares if he talks about sex? he is a guy, its what they do!"
But the more he brought it up, the more uncomfortable I started to become, until finally he broke out this winner:
"If we hit it off on our first date, would you be willing to go with me to a swingers club on our second date?"
EXCUSE ME?! I mean this is someone I met online, had not even gone out with yet and he was asking if I would go to a club where you swap partners? You don't want to have sex me with me on the second date, but you'd like it if I watched you have sex with someone else? Um, no, no I would be willing to go there on a second date or any date...ever!
Look, I am not against that type of lifestyle, its just not the lifestyle for me. So I guess its back to the drawing board accomplices. I mean, I don't know about you, but I think I deserve better than "C."

Updates...

So, I should probably update those of you following on the the people I have mentioned in previous posts.
I'll start with speed dating...nothing to report there. But it was still fun, so I would go again (okay mom?).
Needless to say, I was never going to see "A" again, so we can let that go.
As for "B" I did e-mail him back on facebook. I also apologized for taking so long getting back to him. I mean, he did have to wait a whole three days where I was busy with work and traveling (I've been home twice in a week and a half!). As of today, three days since I sent my apology e-mail, I have not heard anything. Is this his way of punishing me? Letting me know just how it feels to be waiting for an e-mail from someone? Trust me "B" I am not sitting by my inbox waiting for you. My friend said this was some kind of guy code, taking the same amount of time to get back to you that you did to them. Well, I am not a follower of all that code, game, rules, stuff. I am a whatever happens, happens sort of person. So I think it is safe to say good-bye to "B."
Remember the faceless man? Well, he has a face now, and its a good one! We will now call him "C" and I have a date with him this Thursday! We have chatted a bit online and he seems nice, there is just one thing, but it deserves a post of its own...stay tuned!

Somebody's Getting Married!

Obviously it is not me, I mean "Operation 3.0" just started, I can't work that fast. It is my sister, the older of my two younger ones. I was just home for her shower and she looked so happy and so beautiful! I just wanted to take a moment from the dating, the match.com, and whatever else to ponder on that for a moment.
My little sister is getting married! And this is not an issue of her being married before me, as I always knew that would happen. I really am so happy for her. But watching her yesterday, I realized my little sister is grown up. She doesn't need me anymore and she totally used to. I mean from everything like what ice cream flavor she liked to saying the days of the week when she was in kindergarten (yes, I was pulled out of my second grade room to talk to her). Granted as we have gotten older we have had our share of differences and have moments where we don't talk like we used to, but now she is going to be starting her own world, her own family, and I am not going to be a part of that. Its a little bit sad, but in a good way. So, sister, I know you are reading this, just wanted you to know I love you and I am so happy for you, and if you ever need me to say the days of the week with you, I'll always be here.

Stalker much?

So, I sent an e-mail to someone on match.com (okay I sent alot of e-mails) and I got a reply! I think I have already established how rare that actually is. To be fair, let me say that this e-mail was actually sent by one of my accomplices. We sit on the phone together and go through my matches. I don't think it really matters, but I wanted to be honest about the process. Anyway, this person, we shall call him "B", responded. It was just two days ago and I honestly had not gotten around to responding. I don't think two days is a whole lot of time, besides, he took about two days to write back to me.
So this morning I turn on my computer and sign into my personal e-mail, my work e-mail, and facebook. It is my morning routine once I get to work. But, whats this? An e-mail on facebook? I thought maybe it was from one of the bridesmaids for my sister's wedding, we have been e-mailing back on forth about bachelorette party ideas (and since sister, you are reading this, I will not be going into further details on that!). No, it was an e-mail from "B"! He had looked at my match profile, took some of the information and found me on facebook. Um, I won't lie, that is just a little extreme, don't you think? I mean, jeez, it was only two days ago that I got your first e-mail and now you're e-mailing me on facebook?! I don't know how I feel about someone doing that, it seems a little stalkerish to me. Which I won't lie, we all do it (come on, you know you google your friends, boyfriends, girlfriends, even yourself!!) but this is someone I have not even met or spoken to yet. I don't know how to respond. And where, match.com or facebook? Should I look at it as flattering that "B" went through that much trouble? Or should I be freaked out that he pushed a little to far?

Ready...Set...Date!

So, I decided that if "Operation 3.0" is to have a chance I have to try other things as well as match.com. I can't put all my eggs in one basket, if you will. Besides, my mother gets on my nerves asking me what else I am doing to meet people. So I decided to give speed dating a chance. I convinced a friend that she had to try it too so I would not be alone and we were off to the Upper East Side for a chance to meet eight single Jewish men. Mom will be so proud!!
So off I went to the speed dating venue, of course my friend and I were the first ones there (I am big on punctuality). We ordered a couple of drinks and sat back waiting for the event to start. As people trickled in I noticed that most of the guys there were either younger than me or really small (like I could break them). But I had promised to be open minded and so I was, I sat down for the first of my six dates.
Surprise, little guy was super funny and really nice. But there was no physical attraction, like I said, I could break him. I mean, I am not huge by any means, but he was maybe a third of my size soaking wet. Whatever, he could be a fun person to be friends with. I was feeling pretty good about the whole thing. Next date please...
And then it was all downhill. From the guy whose head seems to be set to bobble, to the guy who didn't ask me one thing about myself. There was one guy who had awful breath and another who seemed to not know what he was doing with his life. Things were not looking good. Last date...Thank goodness...Was he....
Someone I could talk to? Check! Someone who made me laugh? Check! Someone I thought was kind of cute? Check! Could it be that I met someone that I would actually want to see again? Check!
So now I have to see if the feeling is mutual, and of not, there is always another speed dating event, singles party, match.com, set-up or whatever to make mom happy!

Sisters

So, I am the oldest of three girls, which made growing up really fun for my dad. I love my sisters so much, but sometimes I take a look at the three of us and wonder how we are related, we are all so different! I think those differences are what makes us all unique, but some similarities wouldn't be such a bad thing, right? Now if only I could find them...
Anyway, this week, I got the invitation for one of my sister's wedding. Its beautiful, simple and elegant, just like her. I did notice however that my invitation is only addressed to me. No Guest. Well, I will admit part of it falls to me since I said I probably wouldn't bring anyone, but the gesture would have been nice. Show a little faith in "Operation 3.0" family, you guys are where I get the most pressure!! Come on!
Also this week, I had an event for work and I asked my youngest sister to help out (not the one getting married). And really, thank goodness she did! I needed the help. What made the event funny, or ironic, or whatever, is that my sister walked away from the event getting the number of some guy wanting to get together! Me? Nothing!
So, there you have it, the three sisters: The bride to be, the PYT, and me...

The faceless man

So, you know how some women say they picture their wedding and the groom remains faceless? Yeah, I am not that girl. I don't picture my wedding and I don't have daydreams about some faceless man coming to sweep me off my feet.
So imagine my feelings at having an e-mail waiting for me on match.com with no picture for the sender. I wonder why men do that? I have my picture posted, I think its important. I am not so conceited as to think I am a beauty queen, but I think the pictures I posted accurately show who I am. Why doesn't everyone do the same? I don't think it is shallow to want to see a picture. Let's face it, physical attraction is part of this whole operation. I would be lying if I said looks did not matter at all. They do. Of course a really attractive person could begin to loose their luster is their personality is negative and the same goes the other way. Someone you may not have though of as all that cute to start with could grow on you because they are just that amazing! So, what should I do about this e-mail? Well, according to the rules of "Operation 3.0" I have to respond. So I wrote Mr. I'm too Cool for a Photo back and asked him why he didn't want to put one up. And that's when I got the response, and possibly the answer ask to why. He told me he would be happy to send one to my real e-mail address. Awesome! Just what I want, to give someone who I don't even know my personal e-mail, so he can send a picture I may or may not take a look at and get butterflies!
Oh well, I'll give it to him, because as my mom says, you never know. And besides, if nothing else, it will make a good blog entry.